Understanding each other deals with knowing more of your love language. It will help you know how best to reciprocate your love to your partner.
We have 5 love languages by Gary Chapman. 1. Words of Affirmation. 2. Acts of Service. 3. Quality Time. 4. Receiving gifts. 5. Physical Touch.
Lets take a look at them one by one:
WORDS OF AFFIRMATION
This refers to how you compliment your partner. How often do you express your love and care in words,that is verbally? Some people believe you love them when you compliment them often. When you stop doing this,they tend to feel your love fading for them. Most ladies love compliments and seem to fall into men trap after hearing a lot of flattering words from players.
The best way to discover your love language is by studying what you like to give out to people in action or what gets you angry in your relationship with others because you are not getting it from them. I mean what is that thing you give your partner but he or she doesn’t give in return. How best do you express yourself? If you are the type that compliment your lover often but he or she doesn’t ,there is a tendency that you would argue more over not complementing you.
You can help your partner by telling them what you want from them more, What gladens your heart. It will help them know how to show it more often to you. You will discover that when you ask people about what they don’t like in their relationship, they would keep saying he or she doesn’t do this or that. Ladies may say “I keep telling him I love him after a call, or I tell him how handsome he is everyday but he hardly tells me that. Sometimes, I feel he doesn’t love me””He hardly holds my hands in public too,maybe he is not proud of me”.
Relax dear, its not that he doesn’t love you. He is just not that kind of person,so you need to teach him what you like and want from him.
Some guys will say, “She hardly notices my new haircut or even compliment how it fits me”. “She doesn’t even tell me how nice my suits are.” “She never tells me how much she misses me, I just feel she is not into me”. Well,it is so because she doesn’t know you will like it that way and she probably doesn’t believe in such things. All you have to do is to sit down and ask yourself what you like most from each other and try to follow it. It is not so easy for them to change or adjust to your rythm but you need to be patient about it.
Your partner’s love language might not be Words Of Affirmation,so you need to study them well. Good reason why you need to read the next part on this article. *Smiles*
I would love to learn from you too on Words of Affirmation.